It is not easy to say goodbye, is it? Most of the time, anyway. It’s painful to cut the ties, to utter the decisive words, to take one long last look.
It doesn’t really matter what you’re saying goodbye to. The reality, the finality of it is what matters. When you say goodbye, it’s the end.
The end of a relationship, or a duty, or a bad habit. The end of youth or an experience or a fear. The end of something, whatever. The end.
We tend to prefer beginnings. Ends seem like deaths, and that’s scary.
Take it to your journal.
Some of us run away from saying goodbye. We’ll do anything to avoid it. And then we’ll spend lots of time reflecting on that choice.
Accepting our experience as something that is in constant flow, continuously saying hello and goodbye in an uninterrupted stream, is a cognitive recognition that has to happen before we can feel okay with saying goodbye.
The idea may seem ugly to you, that life is a series of attachments that form and dissolve. But as you look over your past, isn’t that the way of it?
Ask your Inner Coach, that constant friend who lives in your journaling:
Let a little time go by. Re-read these journal entries. Do you believe your statements? Has your voice been honest?
If yes, you know what to do. If no, you must start again and answer the questions more honestly.
We are such sentimental creatures! We do not like to let go. But when we learn, through our journaling, that saying goodbye can be a fulfillment more than a loss, we can come closer to the awesome divinity that we naturally are.
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