If you have ever tried to be more positive, you know that it's not easy. Being confident can be hard work! But, if you are one of the millions of people who are having a hard time believing in yourself, I have good news: it's possible.

Life has a way of kicking you in the rear when you least expect it. The tricky thing about confidence is that it's not a trait you can just turn on and off—it's more like a system of levers and pulleys that you can reach over top to make yourself feel better, confident, and more socially in control. The problem is that when you're stressed out and uncertain, and you're too busy or afraid to pay attention to those levers, they don't get pulled and you don't get the confidence boost you need.